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Apr. 11th, 2006 07:29 amI am in love with a wonderful man, Mike.
But right now my heart is aching. we can't be together physically, here are the reasons why
His company was taken over a month ago
papers needed to allow certian things aren't there yet and therefore holiday can't be booked
He may change to a better paid job which means for three months he can't take a holiday without looking bad.
I miss him like crazy and we have never seen each other in the flesh. There is a big part of me saying walk, but I can't, I love him that much, and it isn't the over riding part of me that wan'ts to walk.
I hurt so much it is ridiculous. I love him so much it is incredulous, I can't even quantify it.
I wouldmove to be with him, but his family don't know about me. I would just like to be able to say well its probable we'll meet in august or September (No mater that that is beyond ages off) then you know I have something to look forward to and that it isn't so pointless loving someone you can not be with that it isn't a futile endeavour, which is how it feels right now cause there is no hope and that my friends is how I woke up after 90 mins sleep.
had a look abo0ut and found this feeling is normal and there are coping strategies; here is what a university web site said;
Pro-active things to be doing as on-going maintenance for yourself:
Get involved in organizations or causes that you personally believe in. Put meaningful things in your life other than your significant other.
Help those who have challenging life circumstances.
For example, volunteer at a nursing home or orphanage.
Make sure there are supportive people and places in your life.
Every once in a while, do something that is atypical of yourself, although not self-defeating. For example, go to a movie on a weeknight or get your hair cut.
Tend to your spiritual needs.
Specific strategies to try when the depression of missing hits you:
Let out the emotions: cry, scream, sing, exercise, go for a run, play a sport, take a walk
Write a letter to the person, whether you send it or not, letting her/him know how you are feeling
Write poetry or a journal entry or both
Go watch a sporting event
Come into the Counseling Center to talk about it
Go see a movie: comedy to make you laugh, adventure to take you away, tearjerker to help you cry
Go to the TV lounge or study lounge to have other people around you; don't stay alone in your room
Call, visit, or study with a friend
Take homework to a restaurant and do it over coffee or a meal
As if relationships weren't complicated enough, having them across a long distance is extremely challenging. However, throughout time couples have had to be miles apart, and have been able to maintain a solid, happy, successful relationship until they could be together again. In order to find success, there are some key elements that are necessary, which have been explained above. Without these key elements, relationships may endure, although they may not be healthy or fulfilling ones.
But right now my heart is aching. we can't be together physically, here are the reasons why
His company was taken over a month ago
papers needed to allow certian things aren't there yet and therefore holiday can't be booked
He may change to a better paid job which means for three months he can't take a holiday without looking bad.
I miss him like crazy and we have never seen each other in the flesh. There is a big part of me saying walk, but I can't, I love him that much, and it isn't the over riding part of me that wan'ts to walk.
I hurt so much it is ridiculous. I love him so much it is incredulous, I can't even quantify it.
I wouldmove to be with him, but his family don't know about me. I would just like to be able to say well its probable we'll meet in august or September (No mater that that is beyond ages off) then you know I have something to look forward to and that it isn't so pointless loving someone you can not be with that it isn't a futile endeavour, which is how it feels right now cause there is no hope and that my friends is how I woke up after 90 mins sleep.
had a look abo0ut and found this feeling is normal and there are coping strategies; here is what a university web site said;
Pro-active things to be doing as on-going maintenance for yourself:
Get involved in organizations or causes that you personally believe in. Put meaningful things in your life other than your significant other.
Help those who have challenging life circumstances.
For example, volunteer at a nursing home or orphanage.
Make sure there are supportive people and places in your life.
Every once in a while, do something that is atypical of yourself, although not self-defeating. For example, go to a movie on a weeknight or get your hair cut.
Tend to your spiritual needs.
Specific strategies to try when the depression of missing hits you:
Let out the emotions: cry, scream, sing, exercise, go for a run, play a sport, take a walk
Write a letter to the person, whether you send it or not, letting her/him know how you are feeling
Write poetry or a journal entry or both
Go watch a sporting event
Come into the Counseling Center to talk about it
Go see a movie: comedy to make you laugh, adventure to take you away, tearjerker to help you cry
Go to the TV lounge or study lounge to have other people around you; don't stay alone in your room
Call, visit, or study with a friend
Take homework to a restaurant and do it over coffee or a meal
As if relationships weren't complicated enough, having them across a long distance is extremely challenging. However, throughout time couples have had to be miles apart, and have been able to maintain a solid, happy, successful relationship until they could be together again. In order to find success, there are some key elements that are necessary, which have been explained above. Without these key elements, relationships may endure, although they may not be healthy or fulfilling ones.
